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Parents can get really worried when their toddler shows unreasonable and aggressive behavior. Their sudden outbursts of violence and anger can be really embarrassing too. They can suddenly start pushing, slapping, biting, hitting and punching. It is easy to lose your cool over such behavior displayed by toddlers. Your toddler will be able to better channelize his energies and emotions as he grows. For now, read on to learn how to deal with your toddler.

Here are some of the ways to deal with your toddler’s aggressive behavior:

1. Talk and Explain

As soon as your toddler becomes a little calm and you think he is in a state of mind that he will actually understand what you are saying, then talk to him about what he just did. Make eye contact with your toddler when you explain it to him. Tell him that how his actions were wrong. Convey to him that you know he is a good person who will only do good things and refrain from bad ones. Tell him how happy he makes you feel when he do good things and give him an example of the last time he did something nice. Give him examples of aggressive behavior he has showed recently and explain an alternative way of behaving in the same situation. Explain to him that instead of pushing the kid on the slide, he could have waited for his turn.

2. Introduce Time Outs

If your toddler continues with his aggressive behavior despite all your efforts, then introduce time out even it is for just a minute. Tell him to stop whatever he is doing right away and take him to a quiet place. You can even make him stand in a corner. Just make him stop doing what he is doing and wait for a given time. Tell him that he has done wrong and mommy is not happy with it. Mommy has decided to not let him play for this amount of time because he is not behaving well. Tell him if he repeats it, mommy will extend the time of not letting her play.

3. Interfere Immediately

If you want to prevent your toddler from becoming out of control, make sure you control the situation right from the beginning. Do not just sit and wait for the situation to get worse. As soon as he does something wrong, let him know. Draw the boundaries. Make it clear right from the beginning that this kind of behavior is completely unacceptable. You don’t always have to shout at him. A strong no can be a good way of doing it. If needed, you can try and talk to him in a way he will understand that his behavior is not right.

4. Take Him Away From the Situation

Distraction is a good way to diver your toddler’s mind. If you are in a public place where you believe your toddler is only going to make the situation worse, just distract him by taking him away from the situation. Just interfere and gently take your toddler away. In case the toddler resists, just tell him about all the other things he can enjoy doing by moving away from the place he is at right now.